Who says?


who says

Ever wonder why some people change the way they look or wanna be like someone else? One person looks at another person and wants to be like him or her. The fat gal wants to be thin and the thin gal wants to ‘add some weight’. The tall and slim guy wants to be like the guy with the athletic build because he believes that is what everyone wants….you even hear comments like “oh gal please you need to add some weight” or “No gal wants a guy who doesn’t have an athletic body”. Well, says who?
Who says you are not pretty cos you are fat or that nogirl will like you cos you are slim and not ‘muscular’? Who says that because you smile too much…you are stupid or naïve or without emotions? Since when did personality become about what you are on the outside and not who you are on the inside?
Don’t you ever get tired of people judging you by what they see on the outside and not paying attention to who you are on the inside? Who you are on the inside is who you really are!!!! Who decides that you are beautiful, smart, intelligent or deserving of success? For how long will you allow people to tell you what you are and what you should or shouldn’t be?
The bible says I am fearfully and wonderfully made by God!!! And guess what…..I believe it. I believe it cos the Bible tells me so. So when am tempted to believe that am not smart or beautiful, I just remind myself of what God says of me and how much He loves me. Now that doesn’t mean that I don’t take care of my body… I do, I just don’t let my outer appearance dictate my personality….rather I make my personality reflect on the outside.
Are you getting my drift? I ask again….Who says? Who says you can’t be all that you can be? You are smart, intelligent, beautiful, handsome…..most importantly YOU ARE LOVEDBY GOD HIMSELF!!!! So radiate your inner beauty and stop buying into Satan’s crap or the world’s idea of what goes and what doesn’t…set your own standards and watch the world respect you for it.
I wanna end this piece with an action point. This is what you should do for yourself;
 First of all you need to love your body. Appreciate your psychological makeup, your round smiley face, your little or “nonexistent” chest, your big tummy….getting the drift? Love yourself!!! Work on things you can change like the big tummy (there are many tricks on reducing that) and love what you can’t; God made you that way for a reason.
 Also, look in the mirror often and repeat God’s wonderful promises to yourself…say it till you believe it!!! When tempted to feel worthless, repeat the promise to yourself. My all-time favorite is “I am the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus”.
 Decongest your ‘friendship cabinet’!!! Remove people who constantly drag you down and make you feel silly or any of those kinda ‘feelings’. Surround yourself with cheerful, positive people, people who challenge your mind and inspire you to be a better person. You will be glad you did.
 Finally, always raise your chin high ‘cos you are precious and you are loved!!!! Never ever forget that…now go out there and be the best you can be.

Lois Ozidu


The Lizard In My House


Black iguana lizard

People talk about the skeleton in the closet. That picture’s quite creepy. I mean, imagine opening your closet to find a disembodied skull staring at you out of empty sockets like…uh…ahem…sorry that’s beside the subject. I want to tell you about a monitor lizard entered in my house.
We were watching a feature on television that day, just relaxing. The front door was slightly open but we didn’t think it was a problem. Suddenly, a monitor lizard slowly crept in through the doorway. We bolted to our feet and tried to chase it out, but hurried into a corner behind the television. BUMMER!
At first we had a case of the jitters, but we knew that we could not sit and do nothing. A monitor lizard had just come into our house and we needed to get it out. So we got to work, moving the television and TV stand out of place. We disconnected the other gadgets and hit the floor at intervals, trying to get our unwanted guest, but nothing turned up. For all we knew it could have already made its way under the carpet and out into some other part of the house.

My imagination went into overdrive. What if it was pregnant? Who knew how many little monitors a monitor-Mom gave birth to in one shot? Ten? We could have a whole colony of monitors breeding in our house before we even knew it! It seemed hopeless. But we did not stop.
We decided to unroll the tip of the carpet and –ZAP! The monitor hurried out from under it (to our shrieks and maniacal jumps, of course). We got it cornered between ourselves and the door, and the smart critter chose the door, which was shut. Oh man … well, in the end we killed it (how we did that is a long story in itself).
Needless to say, anytime I look back on that day I’m thankful that we don’t have monitors breeding in our house to worry about. It’d just have been creepy.

The two things I learnt from this are to never leave the front-door ajar, and that if there’s a lizard in the house get it out!
The Bible tells us in Psalm 4:23 to, “Keep vigilant watch over your heart; that’s where life starts.” The stuff we let in through our sight and hearing influence the way we think and, ultimately, who we become. If we let bad stuff then that’s what we’d be thinking about. You know what they say: ‘You can’t keep the birds from flying around your head, but you can keep them from building nests on it.’ It’s a deliberate effort, and it’s your responsibility to be careful what you let in.
And if you know that there’s bad thoughts in your heart, deal with them. Don’t let them grow into colonies of lizards. It’s better to nip them in the bud. Fill your mind with good stuff like God’s Word, and any good thing that inspires. If you need help, just ask God. He’s willing to help.
Anytime I turn on my computer the antivirus software pops up reminding me that it needs an update. It says, ‘PROTECT WHAT YOU VALUE.’ I try to remind myself of the same thing. Your mind is a great treasure. Protect it.
As the Dettol commercials would go if they dealt with this theme, “If you don’t guard your heart … who will?”

By Emmanuel Onimisi

Guest Post



Solace… relief from emotional distress

A source of comfort

Many things trouble the mind;

The ‘seemingly’ mistakes of the past

The challenges of the present

The fear of the (unknown) future

Ending one phase

Beginning another

Where can one’s soul find rest?

That quiet and calm confident inner strength to go on, in the midst of it all?

It lies in having faith in the power of the One who rules in the affairs of men

Whose promises are time-tested and have never failed

Finding solace lies in putting one’s hope in this God

Having the unshakable trust in the truth of His word

Bringing us to an expected end

Herein lies the much needed rest for our soul   


By Gloria Alli